where's the love?

"you have to give love in order to get love" - @TRIMMzGirL


photo by erikadotnet


I couldnt have said that better myself. In fact, this is something that I often times think of. People always have their hand out looking for love and respect but are quick to snatch that hand away when its their turn to give love back. If you want people to support you whether its to read your blogs, come to your parties, listen to your music, etc. but you show absolutely NO love and NO support to anybody else and their passion then dont expect the world to LOVE you and stand to your attention.

Sure you have the few that will ALWAYS follow you and give anything to know every detail of your life..if they arent family or friends of yours, we call them dick riders or stalkers. They admire you so much that they can care less whether you ignore them, turn the other cheek and act like they dont exist. Good luck making it in the real world.

If all you support are people you admire then you'll end up right back where you started. The people that always show your love should definitely get the love back.

This doesnt mean kiss ppl's ass for being friendly...just show them respect.

All im saying is, if I continuously support you and show love but you NEVER talk to me via twitter, aim, facebook (the list goes on) and you treat me like I'm thin air..then peace homie. YOU lost my love. Your pride is bigger than whats important which is your "career" and reality hasnt slapped you in the face yet. I can care LESS who you THINK you are.

I'm just keepin it real.

p.s. NO this isnt to make you read my blogs or be my friend, just wake you up a little bit and I'm not throwing shots at anyone in particular but if you think this blog is about you then..it is. -kanye shrug-

FRIENDS..how many of us have them?

a true friend feels all the emotions of their friend
whether it is good or bad

i stand by my words 100% and only because this is my day to day experience.

when your friend is sad, you are sad. you do all that you can to help and be there for them. pick them up and let them know its okay even when deep down you know its not okay. no matter how busy your life may become, at the end of the day you find yourself dwelling on the situation trying to find a way to help.

when your friend gets hurt, you are hurt too. from a break-up to a car accident. you feel the pain. not physically but in my eyes and experience friends have an unexplainable emotional and mental connection.

now that doesnt mean remain sad and hurt. you have to be there to heal and protect, pick up the pieces but you still will feel the pain.

but the good side..

when your friend is happy and bursting with joy, it makes you happy. blessed to have them smile. makes you smile and makes you want to find an even greater reason to keep that smile.

a friend is more than just a human being that has been there for you..
a friend to me is a loved one that i share a connection with that is deeper than words can explain.

so the next time your friend is under the weather, heart broken, depressed, etc.
share your happiness with them so your joy can rub off on him/her and they can share that joy with someone else.

take the time to be fabulous

last night before putting my phone to rest so i can catch some zzzz's, i ran across a tweet from @brookandthecity which read "the way a women looks, is a reflection of her man's income! - ghetto logic. nite!"

i was laying there like hmmm...that could be true. And although this blog has nothing to do with the above quote (LQI) this is what I came up with..
Ive always felt like the way you carry yourself, look, dress, tells the public a lot about you, your household and your man. when you leave your house you are representing all of those things. i know some people are like "well I'm my own person, he cant control what i wear..blah blah" its not about that..we look at you and can tell the type of women he chose, we look at you and can tell if your the type of women who likes to take pride in the way that she looks. there are plenty of times when we don't have much time in getting ready so we throw anything on. that's OK..that's normal but that's my problem.

i live my life in a rush. everything i do, i rush. getting ready for work most of the time i feel like.."why should i care? i wear a uniform" but I'm still who i am underneath that uniform. when i go to my other job i feel like "why should i try and look good for those people. plus i take the bus all day. I'm not gonna be running in heels all day" but the more i thought about it, i realized its not about that. i see people everyday looking "fabulous" because they took the time to represent who they are, who they came from and who there man is.

ladies, mainly myself..we've got to do better.
I'm not saying glam up EVERYDAY but at least look like we've taken the day to care a little more than we did if we "rushed"
don't look like you "rushed" everyday and if that's the case, take a little more time to be more prepared..

i read something by Kimora Lee a few yrs ago in her book. she said "always dress like your gonna run into your worse enemy so they'll never have anything bad to say about you." or something to that affect. keep that in mind. kill them with kindness..or shall i say, kill them with fabulous.

(Edit) P.S. Here's a little suggestive piece..
Always keep 2 out of 3 things done. Your hair, your make-up or your outfit. If 2 out of 3 is presentable then it'll take the attention away from the 3rd. If you always have all 3 done then your already fabulous and this blog doesn't apply to you. =)

out of all things, i choose you.

credit for this photo on flickr by sedaosima

1 Corinthians 13

Love 1
If I speak in the tongues[a] of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2
If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3
If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames,[b] but have not love, I gain nothing.

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. 12 Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. 13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love

Miss Fortune

Just in case you've never seen my work, my fashions, my designs..here it is.
Hope you like it.


from sweater to a dress(most recent)


pink mini bubble dress


rainbow hoodie w/silk lining.-model.Valerie
zebra mens shirt(school project).-model.SweetT


skull head mini jacket


flashing lights pants. sparkly purple with pink lace on the sides


tube top with attachable hood. support local hip hop logo by kev


3 dresses. models jasmine, tiana, and me.

"remember what you love to do and do it! stuff you love to do and dont finish is bad, but stuff you love and dont begin is despicable" - rev run

You are Appreciated pt2

Words like this is what keeps me going. Thank you Tiffany Cruz.

"Hey Daja! Its been too long, just comin by to see how u been?? I just got done reading ur most recent blogs and ur "woman's worth" blog really made me love myself more even if I do have flaws, I think we need more uplifting women like u gurl!! Oh and I have to compliment on ur latest pieces of clothing u did, u can literally make a anything into something fabulous, I am so jealous =] Well hope to hear from u soon"



"people often say that motivation doesnt last, well neither does bathing-thats why we recommend it daily" - zig ziglar

Tell em why you mad son!

I'm mad at the lack of respect men have for women now in days. Not the chick who puts herself out there for attention but the hard working woman with 2 jobs, the college student, the woman taking care of her brothers and sisters bcuz their parents aren't around, the woman who decides to save herself for marriage because she believes what she have is sacred and should only be given to the man who deserves it. That woman. Not the 2009 "girl next door", not the girl who "smashed the homie", not the "bitch" but the woman who is woman enough to tell you, you are not a man.

Pick your position, fix your situation.

I speak to women, about women because I am a woman. Who knows a woman better than one herself? I just want us to complain less and smile more. No shade. These are a lot of things I am learning and would love to share because we do things out of habit. I am guilty.

GOTTA MAN..
Stop trying to keep up with the Joneses aka your friends. Ex. "Well Pam and Donny just bought a house, Keyshia and Tommy have his and hers Benz" Look, you aren't them. Instead of trying to compete with your friends, you are missing out on what's important. Building a ground for your relationship. Work on what you two have and can accomplish together. If you play your cards right you'll be in that 7 figure house both driving Aston Martins while. Keyshia, Pam, Donny and Tommy try to keep up with you.

ALL MY SINGLE LADIES.
Its good to have standards. Atleast you have an understanding of the things you won't tolerate. Its even better to have an ideal mate but listen, sometimes the problem is not the short hand of men available, sometimes your standards are just so fkn high that you don't even believe yourself. Give yourself a reality check. As we grow up our wants and needs will differ so stop trying to find a husband when you barely graduated high school.

THE LONELY GIRLS CLUB..
Please stop getting in the way of a possibility or a blessing for your friend. The sideline remarks and snickering is just hating. Point blank. Now if she told you ahead of time "hey girl if any ugly dudes approach me tonight and I make a funny face please pull me away" then that's your agreement, that's coo, have fun w/it but if not you look real dumb, bitter and annoying. Are you that mad the man didn't speak to you.?.

I've found myself in each situation before so no I'm not bashing you just telling you its not cute. I've giving myself reality check time after time. Saying all of this to say..ladies, we've got to do better.