where's the love?

"you have to give love in order to get love" - @TRIMMzGirL


photo by erikadotnet


I couldnt have said that better myself. In fact, this is something that I often times think of. People always have their hand out looking for love and respect but are quick to snatch that hand away when its their turn to give love back. If you want people to support you whether its to read your blogs, come to your parties, listen to your music, etc. but you show absolutely NO love and NO support to anybody else and their passion then dont expect the world to LOVE you and stand to your attention.

Sure you have the few that will ALWAYS follow you and give anything to know every detail of your life..if they arent family or friends of yours, we call them dick riders or stalkers. They admire you so much that they can care less whether you ignore them, turn the other cheek and act like they dont exist. Good luck making it in the real world.

If all you support are people you admire then you'll end up right back where you started. The people that always show your love should definitely get the love back.

This doesnt mean kiss ppl's ass for being friendly...just show them respect.

All im saying is, if I continuously support you and show love but you NEVER talk to me via twitter, aim, facebook (the list goes on) and you treat me like I'm thin air..then peace homie. YOU lost my love. Your pride is bigger than whats important which is your "career" and reality hasnt slapped you in the face yet. I can care LESS who you THINK you are.

I'm just keepin it real.

p.s. NO this isnt to make you read my blogs or be my friend, just wake you up a little bit and I'm not throwing shots at anyone in particular but if you think this blog is about you then..it is. -kanye shrug-

FRIENDS..how many of us have them?

a true friend feels all the emotions of their friend
whether it is good or bad

i stand by my words 100% and only because this is my day to day experience.

when your friend is sad, you are sad. you do all that you can to help and be there for them. pick them up and let them know its okay even when deep down you know its not okay. no matter how busy your life may become, at the end of the day you find yourself dwelling on the situation trying to find a way to help.

when your friend gets hurt, you are hurt too. from a break-up to a car accident. you feel the pain. not physically but in my eyes and experience friends have an unexplainable emotional and mental connection.

now that doesnt mean remain sad and hurt. you have to be there to heal and protect, pick up the pieces but you still will feel the pain.

but the good side..

when your friend is happy and bursting with joy, it makes you happy. blessed to have them smile. makes you smile and makes you want to find an even greater reason to keep that smile.

a friend is more than just a human being that has been there for you..
a friend to me is a loved one that i share a connection with that is deeper than words can explain.

so the next time your friend is under the weather, heart broken, depressed, etc.
share your happiness with them so your joy can rub off on him/her and they can share that joy with someone else.

take the time to be fabulous

last night before putting my phone to rest so i can catch some zzzz's, i ran across a tweet from @brookandthecity which read "the way a women looks, is a reflection of her man's income! - ghetto logic. nite!"

i was laying there like hmmm...that could be true. And although this blog has nothing to do with the above quote (LQI) this is what I came up with..
Ive always felt like the way you carry yourself, look, dress, tells the public a lot about you, your household and your man. when you leave your house you are representing all of those things. i know some people are like "well I'm my own person, he cant control what i wear..blah blah" its not about that..we look at you and can tell the type of women he chose, we look at you and can tell if your the type of women who likes to take pride in the way that she looks. there are plenty of times when we don't have much time in getting ready so we throw anything on. that's OK..that's normal but that's my problem.

i live my life in a rush. everything i do, i rush. getting ready for work most of the time i feel like.."why should i care? i wear a uniform" but I'm still who i am underneath that uniform. when i go to my other job i feel like "why should i try and look good for those people. plus i take the bus all day. I'm not gonna be running in heels all day" but the more i thought about it, i realized its not about that. i see people everyday looking "fabulous" because they took the time to represent who they are, who they came from and who there man is.

ladies, mainly myself..we've got to do better.
I'm not saying glam up EVERYDAY but at least look like we've taken the day to care a little more than we did if we "rushed"
don't look like you "rushed" everyday and if that's the case, take a little more time to be more prepared..

i read something by Kimora Lee a few yrs ago in her book. she said "always dress like your gonna run into your worse enemy so they'll never have anything bad to say about you." or something to that affect. keep that in mind. kill them with kindness..or shall i say, kill them with fabulous.

(Edit) P.S. Here's a little suggestive piece..
Always keep 2 out of 3 things done. Your hair, your make-up or your outfit. If 2 out of 3 is presentable then it'll take the attention away from the 3rd. If you always have all 3 done then your already fabulous and this blog doesn't apply to you. =)

out of all things, i choose you.

credit for this photo on flickr by sedaosima

1 Corinthians 13

Love 1
If I speak in the tongues[a] of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2
If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3
If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames,[b] but have not love, I gain nothing.

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. 12 Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. 13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love

Miss Fortune

Just in case you've never seen my work, my fashions, my designs..here it is.
Hope you like it.


from sweater to a dress(most recent)


pink mini bubble dress


rainbow hoodie w/silk lining.-model.Valerie
zebra mens shirt(school project).-model.SweetT


skull head mini jacket


flashing lights pants. sparkly purple with pink lace on the sides


tube top with attachable hood. support local hip hop logo by kev


3 dresses. models jasmine, tiana, and me.

"remember what you love to do and do it! stuff you love to do and dont finish is bad, but stuff you love and dont begin is despicable" - rev run

You are Appreciated pt2

Words like this is what keeps me going. Thank you Tiffany Cruz.

"Hey Daja! Its been too long, just comin by to see how u been?? I just got done reading ur most recent blogs and ur "woman's worth" blog really made me love myself more even if I do have flaws, I think we need more uplifting women like u gurl!! Oh and I have to compliment on ur latest pieces of clothing u did, u can literally make a anything into something fabulous, I am so jealous =] Well hope to hear from u soon"



"people often say that motivation doesnt last, well neither does bathing-thats why we recommend it daily" - zig ziglar

Tell em why you mad son!

I'm mad at the lack of respect men have for women now in days. Not the chick who puts herself out there for attention but the hard working woman with 2 jobs, the college student, the woman taking care of her brothers and sisters bcuz their parents aren't around, the woman who decides to save herself for marriage because she believes what she have is sacred and should only be given to the man who deserves it. That woman. Not the 2009 "girl next door", not the girl who "smashed the homie", not the "bitch" but the woman who is woman enough to tell you, you are not a man.

Pick your position, fix your situation.

I speak to women, about women because I am a woman. Who knows a woman better than one herself? I just want us to complain less and smile more. No shade. These are a lot of things I am learning and would love to share because we do things out of habit. I am guilty.

GOTTA MAN..
Stop trying to keep up with the Joneses aka your friends. Ex. "Well Pam and Donny just bought a house, Keyshia and Tommy have his and hers Benz" Look, you aren't them. Instead of trying to compete with your friends, you are missing out on what's important. Building a ground for your relationship. Work on what you two have and can accomplish together. If you play your cards right you'll be in that 7 figure house both driving Aston Martins while. Keyshia, Pam, Donny and Tommy try to keep up with you.

ALL MY SINGLE LADIES.
Its good to have standards. Atleast you have an understanding of the things you won't tolerate. Its even better to have an ideal mate but listen, sometimes the problem is not the short hand of men available, sometimes your standards are just so fkn high that you don't even believe yourself. Give yourself a reality check. As we grow up our wants and needs will differ so stop trying to find a husband when you barely graduated high school.

THE LONELY GIRLS CLUB..
Please stop getting in the way of a possibility or a blessing for your friend. The sideline remarks and snickering is just hating. Point blank. Now if she told you ahead of time "hey girl if any ugly dudes approach me tonight and I make a funny face please pull me away" then that's your agreement, that's coo, have fun w/it but if not you look real dumb, bitter and annoying. Are you that mad the man didn't speak to you.?.

I've found myself in each situation before so no I'm not bashing you just telling you its not cute. I've giving myself reality check time after time. Saying all of this to say..ladies, we've got to do better.

A Womans Worth

A woman's worth. A mans love. Self love. Its a big deal. We should try it. Embrace it. Guard it with your life because the next man, chick, hater, predator will do whatever it is that they can to take it away from you. If you find your strength and use it against them, NOTHING can get in the way of you loving yourself. Don't let anybody tell you different. And don't let anybody treat you any different then what you deserve. This is probably the realest shit I ever wrote.

I did a questionnaire on twitter and facebook.
"Ladies, what do you love about yourself?"

@LoveMahogani i love my lips! and i love my curves!
@ILoveRoSinaRay my ability to remain strong no matter wat
@OneDivaC Everything..Flaws+Great features.
@Sw33TcAnDysz i love my confidence, care for others, my body , sex appeal, my sexual ways n me bein meh n not wrryn bout wat ppl think=].
@CeleBritney My kindness, free spirit, humor, Smile, faithfulness, beliefs
@MissPVictoria I find a reason to smile no matter what's going on around me.
@TRIMMzGirL I love that i have the ability to forgive & not be judgemental towards people
@ChocolatLibra86 I love how i get along with most ANYONE
@realqlam my sense of humor , my hair , my lips and the fact that I'm my own person
@niquedub I love the fact that I always find a way to smile, even in pain. Going off of tht, love my smile and my eyes :-)
Jessica Jacks everything
Tonisha My care-free attitude
Yvette Robinson (fb) my energy & hustle in all i do...
Valerie VidaLoca Kidd (fb) im a mutha fuckn hustla...u betta ask somebody
Monique Edwards I love my eyes, my body and my loving personality!
Nicole Matta (fb) my boobs haha

So ladies, if these are the things we love about ourselves then why are we so hard on ourselves? Every time you find yourself getting mad over what other people say about you.. Remember exactly what it was that you told me you love about yourself and smile. You win, not them! And if you are just perfect and have no problems then this doesn't apply to you. Oh but nobody is perfect so let it marinate.

Then I came back and asked "Fellas what do you love about a woman?"

Tyree Brickus (fb) the way she carries herself...pretty basic but leaves a lasting impression!
@Mrtyreel07 I like eyes and lips
@KoolKiddMack911 her own personal swag what ,makes her different from others&stands her out
@flashydanerdboy mostly when she enjoys my company but knows she could live without me
@SquaddaBambino i love how mines usually are like me bt a better sweet version.. besides that i love her body & how she make me upgrade myself
@MykeWard good question!!! I love a woman that's educated and knows how to be a girlfriend
@Daddy_Jack their sensuality, their desire, their warmth, their sense of self. Looking @ it, I would need more than 140 characters
@dre_da_truth a woman that's not materialistic at all can just go out and have fun and she gotta know how to cook same hobbies to as me
@dre_da_truth i love how she can take care of her self and me if need be loves to travel take action instead of talk all the time
@Mr_HB resilience. a strong woman is the sexiest to me. for real
@EDotDizzy um.. her honesty. A woman that knows how to be a woman..
@FevEligante Intellect and Personality
@Ry_Terrence When she excepts my flaws that come w/ the good & let's me be a man.
@DomCorleone Everything. If I'm into a lady, I gotta take the good w the bad. So I luh everything bout them. That's bout all ;-)

Fellas, if you love these things about a woman then why do we mistreat them, abuse them, cheat on them. Why not find that woman who has the qualities you love and spoil her. If you are so perfect then this does not apply to you. Oh but nobodies perfect so let it marinate.

I'm not saying we aren't human. We all make mistakes. Especially me. Sometimes it doesn't matter what they say, its who says it. Well if you really let them determine who you are then you're weaker than i thought. All I'm saying is we have to remember who we are even if the outside world forgets who they are. "Fly above the haters"

I can't stress this enough. You see the men love something about us. So if there's something we don't like about ourselves (as I've said in a previous post) learn to embrace it or change it. After all YOU have to live with it.

p.s. I would love to give a SPECIAL thanks to ALL of you who answered my question! muah.

lol (insert face)

I woke up early today and handled a few things, only to realize I had about 2 hours to spare. I didnt wanna lay in bed and just laugh my ass off to "everybody hates chris" because I had done that the previous day and the day before and the day before that. So I told myself "self use this time wisely"

I decided to make myself a skirt..
Although I wasnt happy with the turn out..some ppl were. It wasnt comfortable and it kept rising when I walked. Hey, we all cant be perfect right? It had mixed reactions but hey it was my own so I loved it all the same.


once again simplicity. i found these old jeans that were horrible. fit great but horrible detail so i decided to have fun and use my 2 hrs of free time. i fit the jean to make it semi-high waisted and then i found some pink material that i couldnt really do much with and just went straight to the sewing machine.

Also got some really good advice today.
This very encouraging lady I've known for about a yr now always compliments my clothes. Today she said..
"you should really try out for project runway"
i said "what, no way, im definitely not ready for that"
she insisted "no daja im serious"
once again i said "no, im not ready"
then she said to me "you know what. sometimes when a blessing comes your way, we always find ourselves pushing it back by tellin ourself that we arent ready. next thing you know 10 yrs done passed by and your either still saying no im not ready or your wishing you were ready. so what does that tell you"
of course i said "get ready so i can stay ready"

it definitely made me think twice.

investment...

Have you ever made a big purchase..lets say a car. Well when you get that car, you know things you must do to maintain it and what not to do. Keep gas in the car, get your tune ups, tires rotated. etc. You invest so much in your car (rims, tinted windows, sound system) because you take pride in that investment you made. Its yours. You own it.

Well...

Why dont we take the time to invest in our relationships? Not necessarily money but time, love, affection,communication etc. Theres no handbook to love but dont rush it. I feel like relationships now and days are based off of looks and titles. What about the true meaning. Why not fall in love with that person who makes your heart smile. You love your decision when you wake up the next morning and they're holding you tight.

Let's talk about the money. There's nothing wrong w/spoiling your partner with gifts but some ppl get accustomed to substituting time and love for money and gifts. That should never happen because now you are putting a price on your relationship.

Invest in your relationship. Take the time out to tune it up. Communicate. Take the time out to rotate your tires. Evaluate what you both want. Make sure you keep it filled with gas. Excitement, date nights, good sex. Try new things together. Put tints and rims on your partner. Instill confidence in them letting them know you won't leave them on the side of the highway waiting to be towed. Fill them with trust and secrets.

Im telling you, if you take the time to appreciate your partner, you will be pleased by the results. It will pay off in the long run. You wont have to worry about trading them in because they won't give out on you in the end.

motivation..

we all need that.


(lol this picture is funny to me)

well if you have a twitter then im sure you are following rev run. if you aren't then you have that annoying friend which is probably me, that always feel the need to retweet his quotes. what can i say, when you read something sometimes you feel as though its directed towards you.

heres a few

wanna be free? run to your responsibility, wanna be held back? run from responsibilities.

lifes too short to not be doing what you wanna do.. im just sayin

being positive might not cure ALL your problems.. but it WILL piss off your haters enough to be worth the effort.. stay up!

remember what you LUV 2 do & DO IT! stuff u luv 2 do & DONT FINISH is bad, but stuff u luv & DONT BEGIN is DESPICABLE!

p.s. i love how he types the way young ppl talk. lol

Repeat Offender

Dear Repeat Offender,

Why must you continue to abuse the innocence? Are you that cold hearted and selfish to only give a damn about your feelings to only want to please your addiction? How do you feel when the purity in those eyes beg you to stop? If raping ones soul continuously is not enough then somethings got to give. Do us all a favor and pull the trigger. You wont be missed.

BANG BANG!

-yours truly


credit for this photo

disclaimer: this is to all of the liars, cheaters, domestic abusers, etc. if as soon as you read this, that particular person came to mind, this is for them.

Nothing short of Amazing

This book is brilliant. It is a handbook for all aspiring Fashion Designers, Editors, Models, Stylist. etc. It gives you advice, stories, lots of beautiful pictures. Its like sex and food in a book. Yes, instant orgasm. I recommend this to anyone wanting to make it in the Fashion world. It gives you the story of a lot of designers, models etc who have broke into the fashion world but from there own experience. Some went to school, some didnt. You will read a lot of stories of moguls who went to school to become a Doctor or a Police Officer(far fetched) but at the end of their senior year of college they had an epiphany.

Saying all of this to say FOLLOW YOUR DREAMS!

"Dont play the star before you are one. Let other people tell you that you are a star. Its not for you to tell them. They would have already noticed." -Karl Lagerfeld (Designer for Coco Chanel)
- that basically means to stay Humble. we get so caught up in the cocky side of the world, we often times forget that there are always ppl greater than us. so appreciate the gift we have because it can be taken just as fast as it was discovered.


"Dont wait until you think you have some genius idea before presenting yourself to the world, show them as you go" - Justin Giunta

- to me that means dont just sit around waiting for the lightbulb to go off in your head. work hard on your craft and great ideas will flow along the way.


"Network like crazy because if you dont know anyone in the industry someone in your life might know of someone who can help"

-be nice to others because everyone knows someone. you might need that person one day. its a small world.


Maybe fashion isnt your thing, but whatever it is find your inspiration and run with it. there are so many books out there, who knew that all we had to do was read them. =)

Simplicity

About two months ago, a lady that I work with gave me a bag with two sweaters in it. The sweaters didnt appeal to me at all. So I ended up forgetting about them and buried them deep in my closet. Well about two wks ago I was looking to get rid of clothes when an idea came over me. Only give away the clothes that I cannot salvage.
So I decided to see what I can make out of it. I ended up making a cute little simple dress. I swear this was the most comfortable dress I've made this far.

I cut that sweater until all it looked like was fabric. Made the dress from scratch all within 30mins. I surprised myself. lol. Cut the sleeves and made pockets and the rest, you can see for yourself. Hope you like it.

My Denim Military Band Jacket

So I've been drawn to this Military Band Jacket going on a yr now. When Michael Jackson died, I began to see it everywhere. From Beyonce to Rihanna to tin buck two. Everytime time I took the time out to actually look for one they were either to plain, too busy or too expensive. -sigh- I didnt think there would ever be hope.

I knew i didnt want anything too flashy. Im over the whole looking like a disco ball at night idea. I was more into the vintage look. Jimi Hendrix wore it best.



Neways I did a lil researching and found one that fit my wants. Ebay always come through when I need it. Its not exactly what I wanted but I was tired of looking..I ran out of patience. lol but never the less I love it. This one is the denim version. Hope you like.